Tag: self-help
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Note to Self: Stop Resisting
Stop resisting, and start persisting. Life always feels harder when I am resisting change or growth. Whenever I am close to a breakthrough or reaching my goal, I self-sabotage. I quit or I make excuses. I revert to what is comfortable. Even when I know the change that is about to come will be good…
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Note to Self: You Can’t Love Someone Into Loving You
No matter how much you love and care for someone, it won’t change how they feel about you. It might affect their feelings in some ways, but we can’t control how another person feels for us. I used to believe that if I just loved someone enough, that my feelings would eventually be reciprocated. I…
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Note to Self: Accept Kindness
I’m improving and getting better about it, but it’s still uncomfortable for me to accept help and kindness. It feels overwhelming when someone offers me a compliment or does something to support me. I don’t always feel worthy of other people’s kindness. Part of me is still untrusting of people’s motives. Why would you want…
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Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparison has been called a thief before, but I think it’s a thief, liar, and a killer. Comparison has killed a lot my dreams before I even started. It has lied to me about my capabilities and the possibilities in my life. It has stolen my confidence and excitement. In the past, when I got…
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How to Get Out of Your Own Way
Difficult truth: sometimes you are the problem. I know it’s hard to face, but there are times when we get in our own way. There have been times when I’ve complained about my circumstances or experiences, and I was quickly humbled by the realization that I was the reason for what I was experiencing. I…
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Ask Yourself: What If It All Works Out?
Our minds are very powerful. It can create worlds, lives, worries, and more. My mind used to be filled with, “What ifs?” What if I fail? What if I get hurt? What if it all falls apart? What if I’m making the wrong decision? What if? What if? What if? I would spend hours in…
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Gratitude Has Changed My Attitude
I know that sounds cliché, but gratitude has truly shifted my perspective and altered my outlook on my life. I used to only notice the things that were wrong in my life, never really giving much thought to all that I had and all that was going right. Once I started to express my gratitude…
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Note to Self: Grieving is Relieving
Death is a natural part of life, but that doesn’t make it easy to accept. Through loss, I have learned that grief is not always one size fits all. With some deaths, grief comes right away, while others can be difficult to think about. I have felt numb to the pain of losing someone that…
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How I Live With Depression
As much as I’d like this to be about how to overcome depression, I don’t have the answer for that. I have been living with depression for several years. I used to say that I am battling with depression, but over time, I’ve stopped fighting. I don’t mean that I’ve given up. I mean that…
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Note to Self: Affirm Yourself
Positive self-talk didn’t always come easy for me. For awhile, I was resigned to being my biggest critic, and sometimes even my worst enemy. Because I didn’t always think highly of myself, I would seek external validation. I would do things for others in hopes that they would compliment or say nice things about me.…
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