Category: Note to Self
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Note to Past Self: It Gets Better
The first half of 2025 was difficult. Day by day, it felt like nothing would change. It felt as if I’d never feel anything other than sadness and anxiety again. But somehow, I kept trudging along. Somehow I pulled myself out of the trenches and pushed forward. Although the season of fall is starting to…
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Note to Self: It’s Okay to Start Again
It’s okay to start over. It doesn’t mean that you’re starting from scratch or the absolute beginning. You are starting where you’re at. I used to be so fearful of having to start again. I thought that it meant that all my progress was gone – that all of it was for nothing. Starting over…
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Note to Self: You Belong
You belong. You don’t have to fit in. You don’t have to fight with yourself to become someone else. You belong to you – as you are. I have struggled a majority of my life to feel as if I belong. I never felt like I quite fit in with the people around me –…
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Note to Self: Stop Resisting
Stop resisting, and start persisting. Life always feels harder when I am resisting change or growth. Whenever I am close to a breakthrough or reaching my goal, I self-sabotage. I quit or I make excuses. I revert to what is comfortable. Even when I know the change that is about to come will be good…
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Note to Self: You Can’t Love Someone Into Loving You
No matter how much you love and care for someone, it won’t change how they feel about you. It might affect their feelings in some ways, but we can’t control how another person feels for us. I used to believe that if I just loved someone enough, that my feelings would eventually be reciprocated. I…
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Note to Self: Accept Kindness
I’m improving and getting better about it, but it’s still uncomfortable for me to accept help and kindness. It feels overwhelming when someone offers me a compliment or does something to support me. I don’t always feel worthy of other people’s kindness. Part of me is still untrusting of people’s motives. Why would you want…
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Note to Self: Grieving is Relieving
Death is a natural part of life, but that doesn’t make it easy to accept. Through loss, I have learned that grief is not always one size fits all. With some deaths, grief comes right away, while others can be difficult to think about. I have felt numb to the pain of losing someone that…
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Note to Self: Affirm Yourself
Positive self-talk didn’t always come easy for me. For awhile, I was resigned to being my biggest critic, and sometimes even my worst enemy. Because I didn’t always think highly of myself, I would seek external validation. I would do things for others in hopes that they would compliment or say nice things about me.…
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Note to Self: Keep Going
I have been job searching, and frankly, the process has been wearing me down. Although my mantra is to not take things personally, and I understand that business is business, it can be hard to ignore that little voice in my head. Maybe you have that little voice in your head, as well. Mine tells…
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Note to Self: Get some rest
Rest is easier said than done. From time to time, I find myself resisting rest. I try to get myself to relax then somehow I end up cleaning or working on something. I realized in the last year that I had this belief that I needed to earn rest. If I wasn’t productive, then I…
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